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Everything I write and express here is my opinion only, and in no way meant to speak for all adoptees or make general statements about adoption being good or bad. These are my truths and in sharing them, I hope that they encourage you to explore your truths. As Mr. Rogers said “ Discovering the truth about ourselves is a lifetime’s work, but it’s worth the effort.”
Others might say adopted, I might say yes, and I am also abandoned . I think most of us would admit that there is a “Yes, And” element to our lives. Yes, things are great, AND sometimes I feel sad. Yes, I was loved AND I felt unwanted. As an adoptee who now lives “out of the fog” this paradox has become a very real truth in my life. I am both. I am allowed to be both.
What I want you to know is that I lived most of my life believing that there was no AND to my adopted life. As far as I was concerned, adoption was great and I was given a better life. I was not aware that there was any truma in being separated from HER at my birth. It wasn’t until I was 46 and had a flashback, that I even considered there was pain from this relinquishment. Upon deeper reflection and work, I’ve discovered that my truth is that I have always had this wound and I was not awake to it and how it influenced the way I show up in the world.